"Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let the pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place."
-- Unknown
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Tuesday, August 18, 2009

Oh, the irony....

Life is funny sometimes, isn’t it?

Growing up, I had big dreams. I wanted to travel – wanted to see the world. I dreamed of living in an apartment in New York. I imagined all of these grand adventures I would have and interesting people I would meet.

In high school, I started dating a guy who changed some of those dreams. I was “in love” and we talked about our future life together. He wanted to stick close to home and told me numerous times that he had no desire to travel anywhere too far away. We made it through high school and I chose a college in my little southern state so I wouldn’t be too far away from him. In the beginning, I hated my small-town life. I was bored and constantly thought about leaving and starting over somewhere new. But a funny thing happened at the end of my first year. By the time me and my childhood sweetheart broke up, I was in love with my life in Troy. I made friends and eventually began dating my most recent ex, who was even less keen on the idea of moving away from his hometown. So I did what I had to do to make sure I stuck as close as possible – that’s how I wound up here at my current job.

And I’ve learned to love life in my small town. I enjoy the slower pace and friendly people and I’ve tried to become as involved in my community as possible, joining service groups like Junior Service League and Kiwanis Club. I go to church and have a good circle of friends. I enjoy the rolling pastures and lake views that my little town offers – and overall I’m very satisfied with where my life has brought me. But there are days I still dream of something more exciting.

And you want to know the funniest part? A few nights ago I spoke with my high school sweetie – the one who wanted to stick close to home. The one I made sacrifices for several years ago. As we were catching up on life and everything that has gone on since we broke up five years ago, I couldn’t help but laugh a little. Mister “I want to stay in Alabama” is currently living in Hawaii and is relocating to Miami at the end of next month. He joined the Coast Guard, and as a result, has been able to live in some gorgeous places. And mister “I have no desire to travel overseas” will be heading to Spain for training this year. So, as I volunteer to make funnel cakes and judge the photo contest at the county fair in the fall, he’ll probably be seeing some of the most gorgeous beaches in the world.

Yep. Life sure is funny.

13 comments:

~Thought's By Dena~ said...

Isnt that just the way it goes???? I guess that is why they say to never say NEVER!!!!

Trudy said...

I would say that is quite the turn for sure! Well, it sounds as though you are both very happy with right where life has put you, and that's the most important part!

and mmm...funnel cakes!

septembermom said...

That is funny how he is now a world traveler! Looks like everything worked out well for both of you. It is interesting to wonder where you would be hanging out now if you made a different decision back then.

Kim said...

You never know what's gonna happen is the lesson I take from such things. Is he dating someone? Are you guys gonna meet up some time???

RileyScott said...

It's funny how life worked out sometimes.

Life always seems greener on the other side of the fence. Human beings are often drawn to the unknown or the promise of a better life or times.

I'm glad that you're happy with your life, and to drive my point home even further, I'm jealous. Your small little town sounds like a wonderful place to live.

I live on long island, which is an extended part of NYC. People aren't friendly here anymore. Everyones rushing rushing rushing, and just sitting in traffic (especially sitting in traffic) can be maddening. The prices are sky high for everything from food, to housing, and especially utilities.

It's funny about your ex, but maybe there was a reason for you to be in troy. I'm glad you're happy where you are, and I hope to find that contentment with my living arrangement one day.

Kelly said...

Your post made me think of that Alanis song "Isn't it Ironic?!"

Little Ms Blogger said...

Isn't there a saying that God laughs at those who are making plans?

Okay, something like that.

My life has changed several times in the past decade that I just make the best of a situation.

~ H said...

I'm loving your blog, too ... and your name!!! (I'm a Heather, too.) It's amazing how your perspective can change over time. I think it's also pretty cool that you two could reconnect and catch up on life. There's a lot of growing up that happens between mid-college and post-grad. :)

Diane said...

I didn't know you and K broke up! I missed so much!! I hope you're doing well... you sound good, though. Email me if you need an ear!!! XO

Savannah Reed said...

You gave me a good laugh for the day. It seems that you and me have a lot in common. I remember saying those things too when I was "in love" in high school. Things change as people change. Your adventure is out there don't worry. Love you!

Missy said...

This story sounds so familiar!

Jenners said...

That is funny! And just proves why you NEVER make life choices based on someone else's desires.

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